Learning to Heal From Grief

Healing requires a tremendous amount of energy. Be good to yourself by doing for you what you would do for a friend or neighbor in the same situation as you find yourself.

  • Try not to be rushing about especially if the activity is purposeless. Your body needs energy for repair of the terrible emotional wound that you have experienced.
  • Keep decision-making to a minimum and avoid major decisions for at least a year following your tragedy.
  • Accept the help and support that are available to you.
  • Ask for help. Your family and friends want to support you but are reluctant to invade your privacy. It’s important to find someone who is caring and understanding.
  • Own your pain. It cannot be ignored. Allow the grief process to run its full course.
  • If you feel like crying, by all means do so. Crying will make you feel better.
  • Sundays, holidays, and special family days are difficult to handle so schedule activities that will bring you comfort.
  • If your grief is unresolved, it will damage your health. Seek the help of a counselor or clergy person.
  • Keeping a journal is often a good way to understand your feelings. Reading a journal at a later date often indicates that healing is happening.
  • Exercise is very helpful to persons in grief. Be moderate. Walking is very beneficial and aids in stress reduction and helps sleep.
  • Do not be afraid to enjoying a good time. Often grieving persons believe they should feel guilty if they find any kind of enjoyment.
  • Grief comes and goes. It also takes time.
  • When you feel a surge of anger, go with it. It is healthy to express anger.
  • Plan things to which you can look forward (trip, visit, or lunch with a special person.)